Life’s Too Short

Bob PinoI’ve been thinking about my Dad a lot lately. It’s been 5.5 years since he passed away from cancer, but that wasn’t the first disease he/we battled with in his life. The realization came to me the other day that he was my age when he was hit with Multiple Sclerosis. As a kid, I watched my Dad go from a guy I could kick a soccer ball with, to a hospital bed for 3 months, only to come out in a wheelchair for many years to come. In that time, they also determined he had diabetes that would require injections multiple times a day indefinitely.

My Dad was never accused of being “healthy” in any form. He did drugs for years, ate too much, didn’t exercise, was angry and yelled a lot. Too many things to pass off as just “being Italian.” Even so, being a child watching him have mobility, energy, dignity stripped from him, was heartbreaking. I had to be “the man of the house”. My Mom and I had to do everything. I mean how many kids are lifting their Dad in and out of bed, or the bathtub, or the toilet? How many are loading wheelchairs into the car, check the oil in the engine and air in the tires, etc? How many go from a fairly normal income to below the poverty line because their Dad no longer works and Mom can’t because she’d had to become his nurse? I don’t say this as a sob story, it’s just my childhood story.

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5 Life Lessons My Kids Inspired

IMG_3387Today I thought I’d take a few moments and share 5 “life lessons” I’ve learned on my fatherhood journey with my own kids. They’re in no particular order, but certainly some our bigger struggles for folks than others.

So, here they are…

Live In The Moment
Sure, you need to be mature and plan for some things but that doesn’t eliminate the value of living in the moment. Another way to say it would be, Be Present. So much of the fun in life can be lost when we are worrying about what’s next, or worse, just have our face in our phones. Look up and live your moments to the fullest. We only get to do this once. Continue reading

Busy Is Not Necessarily Better

Up Close and PersonalAre you overcommitted? Are you constantly running from one thing to the next, not sure when your next chance to sit down will come? Are you reading this on your third cup of coffee or red bull or whatever you stimulate yourself with to get through the day?

What happened to us? Why have we become a culture desperate to be busy? I’m all for being productive (I love it actually) but when did taking a breath or spending time with your family and friends, or simply sleeping 7-8 hours a night become a sign of weakness?

This speed train to burnout is not what we were created for! There’s no manual for life that says “run yourself into the ground, then you will know true happiness.”

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Not Another Resolution

AA017935Ah, New Years. It’s that lovely time of year where well intentioned resolutions, die a slow (or truthfully, fast) death as life rolls on. Can you relate?

I wish I could tell you that as I look back over the many years, I see nothing but completed objectives and fulfilled dreams. I wish I could say that every time I set my mind to it, I was able to change this habit or that behavior. Unfortunately, I know all too well the regret of leaving something incomplete.

What starts as a truly motivating desire to see improvement in a relationship, a project, a personal goal…ends in a “oh well, maybe next year” or worse “I wish I had stuck with it“.

Have I depressed you? I think I just depressed myself!

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