As many of you know, Amy & I have the perfect marriage. It has always been rainbows and alive with the light of a million fairies. YEAH RIGHT!
No, the truth is we’ve had a 14+ year marriage that has been all over the map. Figuratively and literally, haha. We have experienced many joys, but we have also experienced (and sometimes created) many heartbreaking, trust eroding, emotion shattering moments as well. In the midst of the highs and lows, we’ve known one thing to be true: God must be the center of our marriage. That sounds like a trite “Christianese” phrase but it is very true. If we don’t allow Him entrance into every part of us individually and as a couple, we will never walk in the freedom and calling He has for us. At least not to its fullest.
Why is it that so many women swoon over the guys in romantic movies? Is it their dashingly handsome good looks? Their ability to “rescue” the one they love? Their charming sense of humor? The argument could be made that yes, all of those things draw a woman into the story unfolding on the screen and endear them to the male lead character. However, what seems to be the fundamental component to every well loved leading man, is the amount of focus, time, and energy he puts into his on-screen counterpart. There’s something in the way he looks at her, the things he breaks away from to be with her, the lengths he’ll go to just to make sure she is the center of his attention.
So, why does this make a woman smile, cry, laugh at the movie? Because she wants that kind of relationship.
Husbands (especially newer ones), I have a great tip for you:
On Sundays, at whatever time works for you, take some time & help your wife “win” in the coming week. Though she may also work a 9-5, your home is her favorite place & the place she desires to have in order. So, empty the sink, dishwasher, dryer, etc. Pick up around the house. Make the beds. Basically, make the house look like she would like it!
*Extra Credit: Cook Sunday dinner. Come on, who can’t at least fire up the grill.