My Marriage Is Perfect…YEAH RIGHT!

As many of you know, Amy & I have the perfect marriage. It has always been rainbows and alive with the light of a million fairies. YEAH RIGHT!

No, the truth is we’ve had a 14+ year marriage that has been all over the map. Figuratively and literally, haha. We have experienced many joys, but we have also experienced (and sometimes created) many heartbreaking, trust eroding, emotion shattering moments as well. In the midst of the highs and lows, we’ve known one thing to be true: God must be the center of our marriage. That sounds like a trite “Christianese” phrase but it is very true. If we don’t allow Him entrance into every part of us individually and as a couple, we will never walk in the freedom and calling He has for us. At least not to its fullest.

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Once And For All

If you’re anything like me, God often uses music to communicate something I need to hear or need help putting words to in my own life. Today was one of those times. As I drove into work, I listened to this song for the first time: https://youtu.be/4oaRYLEIeis

I immediately downloaded it and began playing it on loop for the 45 minute drive. I’m not ashamed to tell you that tears filled my eyes as I listened to the lyrics so beautifully describe the desire of my heart, but so often not the actions/words I live out.

If you have a couple minutes, I encourage you to listen to this song. Really listen to the lyrics. I know it can help you recenter on Christ, like it did for me this morning.


To Lauren (Lauren Daigle):

Thank you for your sincerity in these lyrics and your heartfelt delivery of them!

3 Principles That Will Change The Way You’re Followed

AA018506If you’re anything like me, you’re always looking for ways to build and enhance the team you oversee. While financial compensation is always a plus, people will eventually leave if money is their only motivator. Title and position is another option, but again, it only holds its value for a time. In order to lead a team that will want to stay with you through good times and bad, you have to lead in a way that truly invokes trust and an ownership mentality in your team.

Below are 3 leadership principles that I’ve found to be essential for building and maintaining a healthy team culture:

1. Be Authentic
You have to check ego and pride at the door and not think too highly of yourself. The more “real” you are with your team, the more they will respect you. As generations progress, the lack of trust in leadership continues to grow. It’s important that your team feels like they know you, but that will only happen if you bypass the easy emotional route and instead take the time and get invested in them. Continue reading

The Challenge of Submission

IMG_2347Submission is a word that when most people hear it, they define it as “walked on, degraded, defeated, etc” Often the mental picture of a caveman pulling his wife along by her hair comes to mind. To “spiritually” elaborate within that metaphor, God would be the caveman and we would be the woman. As if there is no choice on our part whether to serve and obey Him. Basically a “forced” slave told to do everything and punished if we don’t. This is NOT a picture of submission. I can’t imagine any of us wanting to be Christians if that were the case.

The truth is: submission to God actually results in “rising up, being valued, and living victoriously”. He cares for us so much that instead of beating us into submission, He gives us a choice. Think about that…the King of Kings, Creator of the Universe, Alpha and Omega cares enough about you that He lets you decide how to live your life. That in and of itself should make us want to worship Him. Sadly our ego and pride distract many of us and before we know it WE look more like the caveman dragging along everyone else behind us. Continue reading