Ah, New Years. It’s that lovely time of year where well intentioned resolutions, die a slow (or truthfully, fast) death as life rolls on. Can you relate?
I wish I could tell you that as I look back over the many years, I see nothing but completed objectives and fulfilled dreams. I wish I could say that every time I set my mind to it, I was able to change this habit or that behavior. Unfortunately, I know all too well the regret of leaving something incomplete.
What starts as a truly motivating desire to see improvement in a relationship, a project, a personal goal…ends in a “oh well, maybe next year” or worse “I wish I had stuck with it“.
Have I depressed you? I think I just depressed myself!
If you’ve been a leader for any amount of time (at work, at church, wherever), you’ve probably come to realize that your habits and beliefs play a pivotal role in the success of not only your business but also your individual team members. You are the one who can, and should, set the tone of the working atmosphere.
To help you figure out how to go about doing this, I’ve listed a few points below from an article I read some time ago on the topic. Also, at the bottom of the post is a link to the full article.
They Collaborate Rather Than Grandstand
Great leaders realize that success doesn’t have to entail only individual accomplishment. They redefine that emotionally-packed word “success” so that wealth, position, and fame are no longer what really matters. They realize that group success is entirely consistent with individual accomplishment. Continue reading
Wow, I wonder what’s wrong with her? Man, he looks like he’s going through it! Are these phrases that have crossed your mind when looking at a coworker, neighbor, cashier, etc? Seeing the weight of the world on their shoulders…eyes puffy and red, posture shrunken down, hanging their head. Sound familiar?
Question: Did you stop and say or do anything?
So many people are struggling, lonely, isolated, withdrawn; thinking no one knows they even exist. That feeling of despair can overshadow every area of their life. What was once a singular problem has metastasized into their whole being. Depression, fear, anger, all consume their emotional state. It’s an awful way to live and certainly not what was intended for us.
While directing the construction of St Paul’s Cathedral in London, Christopher Wren, the English architect, visited the building site. Stopping to talk to one of the laborers he asked, “What do you do?” Not realizing that he was talking to the great architect, the man, who was a cement mixer, answered “Sir, can’t you see? I’m building a great cathedral.” -Who Switched the Price Tags? By Anthony Campolo
There are a lot of times in life where we sit back and observe other people’s lives and make judgments based on the perspective we have. Why did she do that? Why doesn’t he do this? More often than not, our view of the situation is only a partial view. Sure, we may have “heard the story” from one of the people involved, but that’s just it, only one of the people involved. As they say, every story has two sides.
For some reason we find it very easy to jump in on other people’s lives and pass judgment, offer unsolicited advice, etc. BUT, we almost always hate when they do it to us.
Why are we prone to picking other people apart? Even worse, why do we so often do it behind their backs? It’s not constructive. It’s not healthy. And it’s not helping anyone.