Wow, I wonder what’s wrong with her? Man, he looks like he’s going through it! Are these phrases that have crossed your mind when looking at a coworker, neighbor, cashier, etc? Seeing the weight of the world on their shoulders…eyes puffy and red, posture shrunken down, hanging their head. Sound familiar?
Question: Did you stop and say or do anything?
So many people are struggling, lonely, isolated, withdrawn; thinking no one knows they even exist. That feeling of despair can overshadow every area of their life. What was once a singular problem has metastasized into their whole being. Depression, fear, anger, all consume their emotional state. It’s an awful way to live and certainly not what was intended for us.
I know some of you may read that title and think “I want to be both” and while that concept is good in theory, it’s often poorly executed and leads to kids with issues.
We are called to be Fathers and lead our children in a way that glorifies God, our Heavenly Father. To model that, takes far more discipline then most of us guys want to exert. We’d rather just leave it to our wives to be “the mean parent” and we’ll be the hero, the cool parent, the fun one.
When we aim for “being a friend”, we miss the target God set before us altogether. It’s through you that your kids will learn discipline, patience, anger management, integrity, character, etc. (Moms don’t get upset, they learn this stuff from you too, but Dads/Husbands are called to lead their homes) Continue reading
Patience…just writing that word makes me feel guilty. I am the consummate “do as I say, not as I do” person, when it comes to patience. I can’t think of a time in my life, where patience wasn’t a battle for me.
This struggle wasn’t birthed out of being a spoiled brat, who got everything he wanted growing up. It isn’t spurred on by other people at all. Impatience simply seems to be part of my DNA. That’s not a copout. I’m not off the hook. I just realize that I have an addiction for getting things done and want everyone around me to be the same way.
There are pros and cons to this dilemma…
If you’re anything like me, you’re always looking for ways to build and enhance the team you oversee. While financial compensation is always a plus, people will eventually leave if money is their only motivator. Title and position is another option, but again, it only holds its value for a time. In order to lead a team that will want to stay with you through good times and bad, you have to lead in a way that truly invokes trust and an ownership mentality in your team.
Below are 3 leadership principles that I’ve found to be essential for building and maintaining a healthy team culture:
1. Be Authentic
You have to check ego and pride at the door and not think too highly of yourself. The more “real” you are with your team, the more they will respect you. As generations progress, the lack of trust in leadership continues to grow. It’s important that your team feels like they know you, but that will only happen if you bypass the easy emotional route and instead take the time and get invested in them. Continue reading
If your kids were asked to describe how you are at home, in the car, at the store…what would they say? It’s a sobering question that many of us would be embarrassed to answer, at least sometimes. In fact, some of you probably just skipped a heartbeat or two thinking about things that have slipped out of your mouth!
With our attention on other things we often react to problems like no one is around. That’s troublesome on several levels:
- Why would we be reacting differently if someone were around? Shouldn’t our behavior be the same regardless of surroundings?
- Our kids take their cues from us. Their words are formulated from what comes out of our mouths. It doesn’t matter if your child is 18 months or 18 years old, they absorb your words, actions, and body language.
- Have we forgotten about God? He’s always with us, which is something we treasure when we’re in need, but disregard when we’re “doing our own thing.”