Top 20 Business Leadership Books 2017

Leaders are readers. Ever heard that? To help you stay on top of your game, we’ve put together a list of the Top 20 best selling Leadership books of 2017, so far. Whether you read it, listened to it (what I love to do), or a combination of the two…these resources will help you be the kind of leader you want to be.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
by Stephen R. Covey

Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win
by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin

Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action
by Simon Sinek

The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
by Brené Brown

The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable
by Patrick Lencioni

Busy Is Not Necessarily Better

Up Close and PersonalAre you overcommitted? Are you constantly running from one thing to the next, not sure when your next chance to sit down will come? Are you reading this on your third cup of coffee or red bull or whatever you stimulate yourself with to get through the day?

What happened to us? Why have we become a culture desperate to be busy? I’m all for being productive (I love it actually) but when did taking a breath or spending time with your family and friends, or simply sleeping 7-8 hours a night become a sign of weakness?

This speed train to burnout is not what we were created for! There’s no manual for life that says “run yourself into the ground, then you will know true happiness.”

If anything, the complete opposite is the case.

When the question of “what makes you happy?” is asked to people viewed as successful in life…the wealthy, the famous, etc…the response that comes back more often with genuine happiness is “spending time with the people I love” or “doing things for others.”

This isn’t just an utopian idea; that spending time with loved ones and/or doing things for others (giving of your time, money, etc) makes you happier. Study after study has proven that the chemistry of our brain and body are positively affected by it. (Come on people…it’s science!)

Seriously though, look at your life…what needs to change? Where do you need to cut things back, so you can focus on what’s important?

It won’t be easy to make these kind of changes. Anytime we do something that’s counterculture, we get pushback from others or at least perceive it. Don’t worry about what others are doing…for now. Get yourself straight. Get your time back and redeem it by investing it in the right places. Then you can work on helping others to do the same.

You get one chance at this life. One chance with your spouse. One chance with your kids. Don’t let busyness be a replacement for real relationship, investment, etc.

Written by Andrew Pino

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Make Her Swoon Over You

dsc_7496_2Why is it that so many women swoon over the guys in romantic movies? Is it their dashingly handsome good looks? Their ability to “rescue” the one they love? Their charming sense of humor? The argument could be made that yes, all of those things draw a woman into the story unfolding on the screen and endear them to the male lead character. However, what seems to be the fundamental component to every well loved leading man, is the amount of focus, time, and energy he puts into his on-screen counterpart. There’s something in the way he looks at her, the things he breaks away from to be with her, the lengths he’ll go to just to make sure she is the center of his attention.

So, why does this make a woman smile, cry, laugh at the movie? Because she wants that kind of relationship.

If we’re honest guys, we often hate those movies because they point out some serious flaws in how we relate to our wives (or girlfriends). So many times we have lost focus on what’s going on in the life of our wife. We’ve invested our energies at work, in sports, or whatever other hobby, instead of giving priority to serving our wife and showing her she matters to us. Even time invested in your kids can start to take precedence over spending quality time with your wife.

Like anything you want to see grow, flourish, etc you have to invest your energy into it. You are one of the key contributors to your wife being happy and feeling loved in life. No, she doesn’t need to be codependent on you, but she will certainly define the quality of your relationship by the amount of time, focus, and energy you invest in it.

If this post is challenging you to stop and think about what you can do to reengage your wife, here are a few tips to get her swooning over you:

  • Ask her how her day was and really listen to the answer.
  • Clean up around the house.
  • Do laundry. Not just washer/dryer, but folding and putting it away too.
  • Take her to dinner. Whatever is in your budget to do. She’s more interested in the time and conversation.
  • Go for a walk together.
  • If you have kids, tell her to go out with her girlfriends and you keep them.
  • Sit on the couch and talk to her, not the sports game on TV.
  • Share your life with her. How work is going, what you’ve been thinking about lately, etc.

Sure, this is no exhaustive list, but it’s a start.

We all want to be the leading man in our life. We want our wife to look at us and think, “yes, I made the best decision marrying him. He genuinely cares about me and for me.” Stepping up and giving your time, energy, and focus to your wife will communicate your love and make it clear that she is your top priority.

Written by Andrew Pino

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