Who Are You Trying To Please?

You have to filter the input given from others. While it can be good sometimes, often it’s given through the lens of their experiences, fears, prejudices, & agenda. Your creator “knows the plans He has for you” & He is the authority you should live your life for.

Becoming A Great Leader

AA018357If you’ve been a leader for any amount of time (at work, at church, wherever), you’ve probably come to realize that your habits and beliefs play a pivotal role in the success of not only your business but also your individual team members. You are the one who can, and should, set the tone of the working atmosphere.

To help you figure out how to go about doing this, I’ve listed a few points below from an article I read some time ago on the topic. Also, at the bottom of the post is a link to the full article.

They Collaborate Rather Than Grandstand
Great leaders realize that success doesn’t have to entail only individual accomplishment. They redefine that emotionally-packed word “success” so that wealth, position, and fame are no longer what really matters. They realize that group success is entirely consistent with individual accomplishment.

They Laugh At Problems (and themselves)
Great leaders use humor to put worries into perspective, so that we can laugh at ourselves and the situation before tackling hard work. The ability to tell the right joke at the right time reduces office stress and builds camaraderie, which is a real advantage in today’s intense, fast-paced work environments.

They Help Others Visualize A Better Future
Great leaders don’t just have a vision of the future. They also have a rare ability to understand and channel the desires and needs of other people. They listen as much as they talk and thus create a shared vision that motivates everybody, not just the boss. They point to a place that we know is better and give us the courage to get there.

They Mentor & Coach
Great leaders know how to listen and give good advice at just the right time. Because they haven’t sailed through life, they know what it’s like to overcome intense obstacles and challenges. Most importantly, they’re willing to let go when you’re competent to make your own decisions without them.

They Integrate Pieces Into Wholeness
Great leaders have the ability to see all sides of a situation and allow conflicting parties to not only be heard but acknowledged. They can gather a group and find ways that individuals can work together. They have an uncanny way of “slicing the pie” so that while every piece may not be identical, everyone feels treated with fairness and respect.

They Create A Climate of Trust
Great leaders know that trust is the glue that holds an organization together. Their commitment to build trust creates a counter force to the deception and political game-playing that makes so many offices difficult places to work. They know that trusting, and being trusted, is the best way to ensure that everyone in the organizations wins.

They Make Peace Between Factions
Great leaders cannot be swayed to side with one group or individual against another but instead work to preserve the integrity of the whole system. Peacemakers teach us that peace is a state of mind and that it’s still possible to be happy even in the midst of turmoil and chaos.

Interested in reading the full article? Click Here

Posted by Andrew Pino

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Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Embracing Feedback

mirror-with-ornate-frameLooking in the mirror is so much a part of our routine we rarely even stop to think about the process. We simply do it to observe our look – how we look to ourselves and how we look to others – as we start the day. Maybe we notice that dark splotch of skin that we want to cover, or that random acne that somehow still manages to pop its way into our lives, or the dark circles that tell everyone how tired we are, or even the cow lick of hair that will only go down with high performance gel. You know, the kind that they use to seal the seams of the space station closed. At any rate, at the end of all of it we get to see where the little imperfections are and adjust to take care of them so that we can look our best.

If we are really being honest, most of us would probably choose to swap out that frequently used bathroom mirror for the Evil Queen’s in Snow White. It’s just more pleasant to have the thing tell us what we want to hear and if it ever comes down to the point where it doesn’t, then we just eliminate the threat. The fact of the matter is that some of the best leaders are those who have learned to see value in and embrace feedback. Feedback is the messages and signals that sometimes only the bravest or even most aloof around us actually dare to communicate. This feedback is invaluable because it actually, like the mirror, exposes something about who we are and how we come across that can build and encourage people, tear them down, or simply create an atmosphere counter to the one we desire to set.

We both love and hate the feedback of putting our hand on the stove because the nervous response immediately prevents further injury while at the same time causing a good deal of pain. But the feedback is invaluable all the more. Scripture tells us that mercy and truth kiss, which means that how we give or receive feedback is almost just as vital as the message itself. For those who expose something in our character, personality, or interpersonal relationships with others, we can often throw the baby out with the bath water because we don’t like the packaging. For all of us, its important to realize that “iron sharpens iron” and God specifically has placed people in our lives that will love us enough to articulate the image of how we are seen and where the imperfections lie. Hopefully, we won’t jolt at the audacity, but rather welcome the necessary information. When we learn to honestly evaluate the message and embrace the process, then we get a better picture or image of ourselves and begin to recognize how God uses everything to make us more like Him. We become better team builders, better leaders, better parents, better spouses, and better employees. Begin to love that God loves you enough to not leave you where you are, but to continually shape you into his image.

Written by Jonathan Stells

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