The Power of Patience

AA018336Patience…just writing that word makes me feel guilty. I am the consummate “do as I say, not as I do” person, when it comes to patience. I can’t think of a time in my life, where patience wasn’t a battle for me.

This struggle wasn’t birthed out of being a spoiled brat, who got everything he wanted growing up. It isn’t spurred on by other people at all. Impatience simply seems to be part of my DNA. That’s not a copout. I’m not off the hook. I just realize that I have an addiction for getting things done and want everyone around me to be the same way.

There are pros and cons to this dilemma…

Certainly a pro is that I get a lot of stuff done. I mean a lot. You’ve heard people say “I get more done by 9am than most people do all day!” That’s me. I don’t let things sit, fester, and atrophy. I push, I execute, I drive. (Just saying this is making me energized. I know, I’m a freak)

Another pro is that I inspire and energize people around me. My wife, my kids, my staff…all can feed off the driving force I bring to the table. Finding a new gear and getting more done than they thought possible.

BUT, it’s not all magical and alive with the light of a million fairies! The opposite side of that proactive drive is impatience and control. The ugly truth is that “drive” often looks like impatience and arrogance to others. Just because I’m wired to “get it done now” doesn’t mean that everyone else is or even should be.

Though there have been many positives in my life that have come out of being proactive (promotions at work, leadership in church, a thriving family), there have also been a lot of missteps, damaged relationships, etc. I’ve learned the hard way that leadership at home, at work, at church…centers on patience.

Patience and grace. These words have been used interchangeably in my life. People have had to show me an extreme amount of both. As if that weren’t enough, God, my creator, has shown me more patience and grace than I can ever quantify. I’m literally in debt to Him and can never repay Him fully. The only thing I can do to honor God in all of this, is show other people the same patience that God has shown me. Hopefully in that gesture, I model Christ and His strength in my weakness.

So, the journey continues. I may never be a person that others call “the patient guy” but hopefully I can become a man that others are inspired by, pushed to be better by, and see gracious leadership from.

How about you? Do you battle with patience? I’d love to hear your story…

Written by Andrew Pino

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3 Principles That Will Change The Way You’re Followed

AA018506If you’re anything like me, you’re always looking for ways to build and enhance the team you oversee. While financial compensation is always a plus, people will eventually leave if money is their only motivator. Title and position is another option, but again, it only holds its value for a time. In order to lead a team that will want to stay with you through good times and bad, you have to lead in a way that truly invokes trust and an ownership mentality in your team.

Below are 3 leadership principles that I’ve found to be essential for building and maintaining a healthy team culture:

1. Be Authentic
You have to check ego and pride at the door and not think too highly of yourself. The more “real” you are with your team, the more they will respect you. As generations progress, the lack of trust in leadership continues to grow. It’s important that your team feels like they know you, but that will only happen if you bypass the easy emotional route and instead take the time and get invested in them.

2. Let Go
You cannot do everything. God has equipped you with unique gifts and talents, for sure, but He also did that for everyone else. Utilize the team you have around you. Trust them with the responsibilities you’ve given them and let go. Don’t micromanage. Seriously, don’t. You will get so much more out of your team if they believe that you have faith in them to get things done. Plus, they will often surprise you with their ideas and ingenuity.

3. Encourage
Encouragement is sometimes the hardest gift to give others, but as a leader it’s essential to validate your team’s efforts. All of us have the desire to be accepted and “valued” in other people’s eyes. Take every opportunity to be an encouragement to those on your team. The great thing is they will not only feel appreciated, but it will also give you a lift.

Though these 3 principles don’t encapsulate everything it takes to be a good leader, if you master these, you’ll be lightyears ahead of most other leaders.

Written by Andrew Pino

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