Patience…just writing that word makes me feel guilty. I am the consummate “do as I say, not as I do” person, when it comes to patience. I can’t think of a time in my life, where patience wasn’t a battle for me.
This struggle wasn’t birthed out of being a spoiled brat, who got everything he wanted growing up. It isn’t spurred on by other people at all. Impatience simply seems to be part of my DNA. That’s not a copout. I’m not off the hook. I just realize that I have an addiction for getting things done and want everyone around me to be the same way.
There are pros and cons to this dilemma…
I started out my parenting journey in survival mode: survive the pain, survive the nights, survive the long days when she wouldn’t nap, the unending feedings, the screaming…it was hard! No, of course it wasn’t all that way, but it was definitely an awakening! Not all the rainbows and unicorns I imagined! But somewhere after those first few crazy months, we realized we were going to have to stop just surviving and be more intentional about raising our child: from the simple things like sleep and eating habits to some of the really important ones like character development, correction, etc. It wasn’t just going to magically happen…at least not for us! So we got more deliberate about it. Not overnight – we never sat down and made a list or anything. It’s just been an ongoing dialogue about who God wants them to be and how to best train them for life. But what are the true differences between those “Survival Mode” parents and the Deliberate or Intentional Parents? Here are some of my observations and experiences: Continue reading
There are a lot of things that play into you being a good Dad, but for this post I just wanted to focus on two of them…
1. Get Down On Your Knees
There is nothing more engaging to your kids, than to get down on your knees to interact with them. Whether you are hugging them, building something with them, giving horsey rides, etc. Getting down on the floor with your kids speaks volumes to them and helps them know that they are important to you. Continue reading
You know the moms with the planners; the crazy organized, perfectly scheduled kind? They absolutely amaze and intrigue me! I, unfortunately, didn’t get that gene, but I’m finding more and more that I need one! See, I could get away with my disorganized chaos so much better when I was younger, before I was married; before I had kids. It was just my sanity it affected. Now, with the husband and three small kids, I’m having to rethink how I go about my day; how my choices effect them.
There’s so many things I want to do, to be a part of, but most of the time I can’t figure out how to fit one more thing in or the thought of one more thing just overwhelms me. Now, I agree that many times our lives our filled with business and chaos that we just don’t need, but that’s not what I’m talking about here. I’m talking about just finding time for the things that mean something to you; the things you’re passionate about or that you feel called to do at this moment in time, but are struggling to make room for. I feel like many of my weeks are spent running around from chore to chore, errand to errand, putting out fires ALL OVER THE PLACE, doing multiple things at once and forgetting what I was doing to begin with and rarely sitting down until after the kids are in bed. Anyone? Anyone? Well then, lie to me – tell me you’ve done this too and I’m not alone! Continue reading
If your kids were asked to describe how you are at home, in the car, at the store…what would they say? It’s a sobering question that many of us would be embarrassed to answer, at least sometimes. In fact, some of you probably just skipped a heartbeat or two thinking about things that have slipped out of your mouth!
With our attention on other things we often react to problems like no one is around. That’s troublesome on several levels:
- Why would we be reacting differently if someone were around? Shouldn’t our behavior be the same regardless of surroundings?
- Our kids take their cues from us. Their words are formulated from what comes out of our mouths. It doesn’t matter if your child is 18 months or 18 years old, they absorb your words, actions, and body language.
- Have we forgotten about God? He’s always with us, which is something we treasure when we’re in need, but disregard when we’re “doing our own thing.”