Today I thought I’d take a few moments and share 5 “life lessons” I’ve learned on my fatherhood journey with my own kids. They’re in no particular order, but certainly some our bigger struggles for folks than others.
So, here they are…
Live In The Moment
Sure, you need to be mature and plan for some things but that doesn’t eliminate the value of living in the moment. Another way to say it would be, Be Present. So much of the fun in life can be lost when we are worrying about what’s next, or worse, just have our face in our phones. Look up and live your moments to the fullest. We only get to do this once.
Play, Even If You Might Not Win
This isn’t something my kids come by naturally (nor does my wife for that matter), but it’s something important to teach them. Life isn’t just about you winning, it’s about those you interact with winning too. Life isn’t a zero-sum game. Be ok with others success and celebrate it with them. They are likely to do the same with you when your “wins” come.
No Matter How Old, Don’t Whine
Whining is one of those “from birth” kind of issues. We don’t have to be taught how to do it. From the age of a toddler, we complain if things don’t go our way. Unfortunately for many of us, we don’t shake that off as we get into adulthood. Big problem. Your friends, your coworkers, and especially your family aren’t interested in your whining fits. Try to gather yourself and present your issues/challenges in a way that empowers people’s support (and advice), not turns them off to your struggles because they can’t stand listening to you.
Run With Abandon
As we get older, we tend to slow down in everything. Motivation can become a struggle. In contrast, kids do everything at full throttle. There seems to be an endless supply of energy stored up in their little bodies. Now, I’m not saying we should be foolish and run headfirst into circumstances. But, perhaps we could find a bit more freedom in releasing some of the weight we’ve allowed to be stacked up on us (both from internal and external sources) and run our race with the energy and passion we once did.
Empty Your Tank
No, this isn’t going to be about using the bathroom before you leave the house. Although, lets be honest, it’s a great rule to live by! Here’s the context for “Empty Your Tank”: One of the things that cracks me up about my kids is how they can be “so tired” and need me to carry them up the steps, but when I put them down in their room they run and dive on their bed. What I love about it is, how they use up everything in their tank. Even when they’re “so tired”, they can still see something that motivates them and give it their last bit of energy for the day. Another way to think of this, is to “finish empty.” There’s something rewarding about ending a day, a week, a year…knowing you’ve given it your all. Imagine what that could feel like at the end of your life if you’d apply this principle now. What a legacy you could leave the next generation.
So, on the days that fatherhood is kicking your butt, look back at these 5 (kid inspired) life lessons and see if you can’t find the silver-lining in your beautiful little bundles of annoyance…I mean…joy. (I kid, I kid) Seriously though, see if you can’t glean some wisdom and perspective out of this awesome responsibility called parenthood you journey in everyday.
Written by Andrew Pino
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